Relationships

Wow, it has been a long time since I have written anything. I don't really feel good about thing in particular, but neither do I feel passionately about much of anything right now. I think I am a littled depressed,and I may be getting worse as the winter goes on. I think often of writing in a fleeting sort of way. It takes more discipline than I have sometimes.

This life is all about relationships. Making time for fellowship with others. I think that is what all the social networking sites are about. People want to connect with other people that they like, but everyone lives their lives with such complications and tries to move their baggage around. And the baggage gets too heavy, and we abandon it somewhere, but we didn't leave the pain behind. We carry around all these suitcases of beliefs and practices that until that day the burden picks us up and carries us out.Some relationships spend all their time carrying around their luggage. Some don't ever unload it. Then there are others that mostly carry the luggage for as many people as we can pile on. Some of us with relationships with people whom we totally carry find that this bagless individual gets used to piling them on. A lot of them don't even want to place stress on the relationship this way. But we are a world of individuals with separate psyches. Some of us get tossed together and we decide we would rather muddle it out with the people we care about even if not having the relationship would be more peaceful. And as Martha Stewart says "it's a good thing.

It's important to keep families together. I would rather my kids have a network of family that would give a damn about their welfare. And I would hope that my children would return the favor and regard. It shouldn't be easy to leave good friends. Most of them come and go in life. Born in proximity, some of them wax and wain, and sometimes fade altogether. But those friendships that light you up, or give you warmth and camaradie should not be foregone or neglected lightly.After all we have one life to live as this human, in this body on this plane of existence that we know of right now. All other beliefs are in our future somewhere ahead and there are lots of beliefs held out there that deserve to be respected even if not held. That is civilized society.

While political correctness is not always comfortable, it serves a purpose. Commonly held standards of behavior, although certainly greatly relaxed since the greatest generation, are what keep great societies together. A lot of that is a good idea. But political correctness to cover up a lie? Not such a good idea. But that's another subject.I guess my point is that we should nurture the people who nurture us. That's what helps us carry on. The people in our life encourage us and motivate us and make us laugh or distract us when we just need a break for our mind. Some people are just naturally good at this. The relationships that strangle us or discourage us, we should change or limit. Rarely does someone deserved to be completely excluded, but it does happen for the good sometimes. It is always a pity.

Wow, a new year. Maybe time to shine off some of those people skills. Maybe time to get out of our own heads and see if we can do at least a little something that will improve our world; or at least, our relationships.